“Never to judge a book by its cover“
We have grown up listening to quotes like this. And I feel the reason is quite understandable too. Who knows, the contents might be better, or worse, and content is what matters at the end of the day. But cover?
Hmm…I’d like to ponder if a cover is that ‘useless’?
I feel, more than anything else, it’s the job of cover to get the book picked! Success depends entirely on the written word though. But cover…hmm…cover…
What if I think of it as a promise? An unsaid, unheard promise which, accept it or not, does lay down a bottom line? Don’t you think it primes us for what follows once we turn it around?
Studies have concluded that attractiveness is often associated with good, healthy, generous, and all sorts of positive thoughts. The reason has not been under the lens quite that often.
One possible explanation could be the way our brains are built. Reasons like 30% of our cortex is dedicated solely to visual perceptions! That’s insane! ‘Coz this makes us predominantly “visual” creatures who are unable to resist beauty.
Have you ever tried doing it? How does one ignore beauty? How do you turn a blind eye to something so visually consuming like a tulip? Can you stop yourself from appreciating the heavenly ambiance you are in, when your home smells of coffee?
Undeniably, substance has the last word. What stays with you is not the beauty of flower, but its smell on your hands. Not the smell of coffee, but the way it lifted your spirits up.
But can you, for once, stop reminiscing about the moment you stepped in your home when it was being put on stove?
This brings me to another reality check – First Impressions.
Judging someone based on looks or outer appeal is indeed wrong, but truth be told, that is how the world works. We create a halo effect, a kind of Polaroid, of the way we first encountered them, and believe it or not, but this first impression often overrides fact.
Then why this hypocrisy, I wonder. You need ’em, you use them to market, then why get offended when someone had false perceptions about you. You exhaled out that air, dude!
Like I said earlier, first impressions are not always true, but once formed, it takes a mighty determination to actually break out of the frame and make the other person take acknowledge of your true colours.
And lets face it, it happens very less often. Nobody has the time to spare on re-evaluating your personality on and again (unless they are being paid to do that). Unlike scientists, we cling too tight to our theories and don’t really appreciate when we are wrong with them.
I’d like to quote Saint Jerome here,
First love, first look, first encounter, a lot of stress is laid on the first-shits of everything. Isn’t it?!
First impression, the ones for which we take only one tenth of a second to form, and the rest of it to colour that picture. Had the world actually dwelt on truth, such quotes wouldn’t have been hovering our asses since times unknown.
True that! There are no second chances in life, you have always, only..one..shot.
One shot that can make it or break it. One shot to carve a future. One shot to leave a legacy.
And with Lily Frost singing in my head, I’ll stop here with these words,
“Karma is energy, Give me my destiny
Everything happens for a reason
Every choice that I make. Changes the course I take
Won’t be afraid when I make mistakes…”
Moral: Judge, but don’t be hypocritical about it. The world works that way, and so do you. For others, take a chill pill. For yourself, better suit up!
Thanks to: 1. Society for Personality and Social Psychology. (2014, February 14). Even fact will not change first impressions. ScienceDaily 2. Image credits : Javier Pico